Remember Why You Fell in Love
When Did You Stop Being Each Other's Best Friend
You still love each other. You just can't feel it anymore.
You Were a Team Once
You were best friends who tackled life as a team.
You couldn’t wait to come home from a long day to share all the details and laugh and hold each other.
Time apart felt painful. Moments together were cherished.
Now you can barely stand to be in the same room.
From Teammates to Adversaries
Even simple conversations are turning contentious, until the silence is deafening.
You take the long way home to avoid the inevitable confrontation.
Two people who travel for work, who barely have the quantity of time, now spending what little you have bracing for the next fight.
How did two best friends end up here?
You both miss your best friend. You both long for the warmth and companionship you once shared.
The way back to each other starts with one honest conversation.
Start Finding Your Way Back – Get Started TodayHow Kindness Gets Rebuilt Daily
We are hard wired to want connection, and the path back runs through what I call emotional currency.
Through small daily practices, you rebuild the kindness and compassion you once shared. Difficult conversations get less frequent. Resolution comes more quickly.
I can help you remember why you fell in love, and how to get back to that place of warmth and comfortable compassion.
This isn’t generic communication advice. It’s a skills-based approach grounded in DBT, where partners actually learn to validate each other.
The skills are gone. The love isn't.
What Couples Therapy Gives You Both
- Rebuild warmth through daily emotional currency practices.
- Learn to validate each other instead of debating who's right.
- Watch your real dynamic unfold and shift in session.
- Trade the long way home for wanting to come home.
- Make hard conversations rarer and resolution faster.
This is the part where you stop choosing being right over being happy.
My Three-Part Process to Bring You Back Together
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Assessment
Each of you tells your story, what you've tried, and how you met and fell in love. Together we set shared goals. We start where you began.
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The Work
You bring the difficult topics. I observe your dynamic in real time, then we collaborate on solutions and skills to practice. We change it as it lives.
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Refocusing
We assess your progress and address what conflict remains, then build mastery applying these skills across every part of your life. You carry the skills home.
Why Trust Me As Your Partner in Healing
A Skills-Based Approach, Not Generic Communication Tips
I work from Dialectical Behavior Therapy, where couples learn the concrete skill of validating each other rather than just talking more.
Trained in the Methods Built for Couples
Drawing on the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and an attachment-theory lens, I help you understand the deeper patterns underneath the fights.
I Want to See the Dynamic, Live
Rather than only hearing about your arguments, I watch them unfold in real time, so the change happens right there in the room with both of you.
About Me
Nicole Terrazas, LMFT
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and for more than sixteen years I’ve sat with couples, adults, and teens through the hardest seasons of their lives. What I care about most is simple: that you feel genuinely heard, understood, and supported.
You won’t find me hiding behind a clipboard. I’ll laugh with you when something’s funny and tear up with you when it’s all too much.
My background is in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, which I practiced for fourteen years in a state hospital setting, alongside Family Systems work and trauma-informed care. With couples, I draw on the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Frequently Asked Questions
Yes. Feeling like strangers is what brings most of my couples in. The warmth you shared isn’t gone. We rebuild access to it, one daily practice at a time.
This is built for dual-career couples with more demands than time. Sessions happen online, and emotional currency lives in small daily practices that fit between the trips.
Most couples don’t need to talk more. You need to learn to validate each other, which is a teachable DBT skill. We practice it until it becomes how you treat one another.
That’s exactly what I want to see live. When I observe your dynamic as it happens, we can shift it in the moment instead of rehashing it after the fact.
Many couples notice small thaws early, as the daily practices start to land. Deeper change builds over time as the skills become second nature for you both.
Take the First Step Today
There Is a Way Back to Being Each Other's Person
Don't let the chasm between you continue to grow. Don't wake up in 5 years wishing you had started this process sooner.
The time is now. No one deserves to suffer. We are hard wired to want connection. Find that connection in one another again.
The best friend you married is still in that room with you.
What Happens Next?
- Call (510) 913-3293 or fill out the form on the right.
- Schedule your free consultation. No pressure, no obligation.
- We'll talk about how couples therapy can help you rebuild the warmth and compassion you once shared.
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Payments & Services
Services are billed on a session-by-session basis.
We provide superbills for insurance reimbursement and accept HSA/FSA.
No hidden fees – all costs are explained before you begin.